Someday, But I Guess Later Than Sooner

Well, well.  I thought that we were on the way to the future.  But, I guess not.

DD will not poop on the potty.  I know that it seems like all mommy blogs talk about poop, and I try not to do it so much here, but honestly?  It would be so nice if DD would just use the potty -- for everything.

DD thinks that she needs to stand to poop, which kind of makes it hard to convince her that the potty is the way to go.  It doesn't matter to her that her friends are using the potty.  Whenever I've offered a bribe, she completely loses interest in whatever it is I'm offering (even if she loved it once).  I have a box with 2500 freaking stickers in it.  She loves stickers.  I offered her one roll of stickers for each time she poops on the potty.  Now, she acts like stickers are so yesterday.  And she told me that I could give the stickers to B & H, the two kids who live down the street.

We suggest the potty when we see the "look."  We've bought potty books, and potty videos, and DD has seen and read all of them.  We've let her pick out "big girl" underwear.  They are laundered and waiting.

It all just doesn't matter.  Whenever she needs to poop, she will show us the hand and tell us to "leave my poopies alone."  If it weren't so frustrating, it would be really funny.

I know that everything has a season.  And then I hear my mother in my ear, telling me how we were potty trained at 18 months (which I cannot verify, of course).  Sometimes, it makes me feel like a failure.  And then I have to check myself, because this has nothing to do with me, and everything to do with DD.  And, I suppose if I were my mother, having to deal with cloth diapers rather than pullups, I would be more motivated.

I try to remember all the benefits that there are to diapers.  We are rather laid back about them now.  We change her in the morning, but DD is lucky to get one more diaper change before bedtime on the weekends (if she doesn't poop).  At daycare, she gets changed every two hours.  (I'm sure that if they knew what slackers we are, they would be appalled.)  And, it's kind of nice to be able to go places and not have to worry about finding a bathroom in each of them.  It's bad enough that I have to navigate a public restroom sometimes; I can't imagine what it must be like with a little one.

So, I guess there are perks.  In the meantime, the peer pressure is building at school.  More and more kids are wearing underwear and using the potty.  And those kids get to visit the next older classroom.  DD will eventually move to that classroom, the preschool room, but she will never leave it until she's potty trained.  That means that all of her friends will move on to pre-Kindergarten, while she sits there stewing in her diapers.

It will be interesting to see how long this takes.  And, as I've said before, I know that she will be potty trained by the time she gets to high school.  Even DD is not bull-headed enough to stay in diapers that long -- right?

Comments

[Colleen]

We are kindred spirits (or our daughters are). I nearly wrote this exact post today (including the "must stand to poop" part) out of frustration. My daughter knows when she needs to poop. She'll even be on the potty to make a pee pee and jump off saying, "Put on my diaper, I need to go under the table (yes, our DINING room table...ick!) to make a poo poo!"

I'm at a total loss. If you figure this one out, PLEASE let me know!

Your sister in poop solidarity,
Colleen

[Drowned Girl]

You've tried just taking off the nappy and putting her in pants?

But I know several friends with little girls who had excatly the same thing. When I see them, I'll ask them what they did.

My son wee'd on the toilet Ok far in advance of pooing. He was 2 3/4 when he started that. Someone advised me just to junk the day nappies and we did, and he wore pants. he had quite a few accidents, of both sorts, but he didn't hold on to the nappy emotionally. If he didn't go to the loo, and poo'd in his pants, i just cleaned him up, threw them away and gave him a clean pair (bought very cheap sets)

He gradually got the idea.

[Mid-Life Mommy - Michelle]

HI! I just found you. Cool!....I did all kinds of stuff potty training K. Some of it worked, but suddenly, at age 3 she was done with diapers, pull ups, training...It is true, they are ready when they are ready.

[Jen]

Next time? Start early! Early to mid 2 yos actually like pottying. I'm convinced that as soon as they hit 3 they don't.

Doesn't help much now, but kids #2 and 3? They trained in 2-3 days. For both. At 2.5.

I like the no more diapers idea, with her help in cleaning up and you being cheerfulcheerful, chirping about how soon she'll just use the potty and skip all that. It would be a lot harder with daycare though. That's definitely an at home sort of technique!