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September 03, 2008



I think the memories of others are just as special as the ones we create on our own. Your DD will know your mother not only through your memories of your mother, but also because DD knows and loves you.

Hugs. I'm thinking of you.


the memories i have of my father are all borrowed ones. and it's ok. when i'm told stories he comes alive for me just as your mom will comes alive to your DD when she is told about her (or when you write about her here). in a way the picture you get of someone no longer here is all the good stuff, the small moments that loom large in peoples minds...which is really really nice.

thinking of you.


I was just telling my husband earlier today (before reading your post) that it hurts me so much that my father, who was such a large part of my life and a huge part of who I currently am, is not a part of my daughter's world because he died so soon.

Yet after we got home, she was sitting at the table and I went downstairs to start some laundry. When I came back up she pointed across the room at his picture and said, "That's Papa. That's Grandpa." I have no idea where that came from and I hope she can somehow hold onto what few memories she has of him.

I've heard/read that our earliest memories that we keep with us are the traumatic ones - and that would ring true with the one you have described. I know it's true for me, too.

The FarmHouse Kids

Oh what a beautiful post and you wrote it so well.

Try not to be sad, but embrace all the good memories and one by one pull them out on this upcoming day and make it a special day for your Mom, and your Daughter.

Share with her your stories of your Mother and your memories and you will instill in her the memories that she doesn't have.

What a Treasure you can give your daughter and what a uplifting you can give yourself.

Take care my friend and I have been praying for you all day today.



I love what StacyB had to say. I can understand being sad though. I know I have said it before, but you had such a great mom.


I have memories going back to about two years old. They are not very detailed memories, just flashes of people and places, but I know I must have been two because my family was in Minnesota until then and these memories can only be located there (very different geography from NYC).

Time has a way of blurring all memories, but I wouldn't stress too much about DD not remembering your mom. Keep talking about your mom and having pictures of her around the house, and I bet anything one day something will trigger one of DD's Grandma memories. And then that will be a special memory for both of you.

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